Hey Party People,
This will likely be my last post of 2021, and one that I hope truly lands for you.
This post is about one of the most important lessons I’ve learned in 2021…
REST IS DOING SOMETHING.
We have been conditioned to believe that in order to be worthy, to earn money, to grow a business, be a certain weight or to accomplish our goals we have to work hard. We have to hustle and grind, and lose sleep, and make sacrifices. We’ve all heard this narrative before. Now of course we need to take action to make things happen, but does it HAVE to be hard? Or is it possible the way we think we need to go about achieving these things is the hard way? Is there another way, an easier way?
I have always worked hard to do my very best but that honestly landed me in a space where I only felt truly worthy when my schedule was full and my accomplishments were high. I sought out external validation to make me feel whole. Well… I learned that’s not how to fill up your cup. Relying on external validation is a recipe for unworthiness. I talk about Seeking Validation the Heathy Way a little while back which can help in those moments when you need a reminder of your greatness. But at the end of the day, your worthiness comes from inside of you.
Our society recognizes busyness, high stress and long work hours and says you’re doing something “right” if you fill every minute of your day. What is so right about not having a minute to yourself, needing at least 4 cups of coffee to get through the day, having less time for your friends, your kids, or your partner. What is so right about that? Why do we glorify that lifestyle?
On the flip side when we choose to spend time relaxing or taking time to ourselves for self-care, we feel lazy or like we “should” be doing something. That dang “should” runs our lives more than I’d like to admit. What is so wrong about rest?