Hey Party People,
It's been a while since I dropped into your inbox but today things just aligned, so here I am. I wanted to share a bit about connection. I believe that Connection changes everything but the key is finding the RIGHT connections for you. It's so important to find the connections that lift you up, support you along your journey and continuously help you grow.
If you're someone on the growth journey you probably know how important the people you surround yourself with are and how important the right connections are- and it's 100% more challenging than it sounds. It's more challenging than it sounds because we all change and grow at different paces and there may come a time when you outgrow the current people in your life.
I've often wondered what was wrong with me because I felt like an outsider. I just didn't feel like I was on the same path or in the same place in life as those around me. It didn't matter if I was in high school, university, travelling, or entering and living my adult life - I tended to just be a little bit off from the circles around me. And this honestly sucked, I didn't feel like I had "my people" and my friendships would often change. I would carry the guilt that I did something wrong that caused us to grow apart, or tell myself that I wasn't a good friend. This is still occurring in my life today.
What I'm finally starting to understand though is that it's ok to be on different journeys. It doesn't make us love the people in our lives any less it just might mean we require a change in how we navigate our friendship. And I can tell you one thing for sure - people really are meant to be in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. We just don't always know which one that is.
So if you're on a different path than the people you surround yourself with, I want you to know that it's ok. I also want you to know that it's ok to move on. It's ok to recognize when someone's time in your life is up and when it's time to let go. We can't continue on our journey while carrying the weight of others alongside us.
This will feel hard and sticky, and maybe even a little emotional to let go, and that's ok. I get it. This has been something I've been navigating for over a decade and it still feels hard when friends come and go but instead of being sad that it's over, I try to be grateful for the times we had. And I never ever stop sending love to those no longer in my life. I think of them often, send them love and light, and then refocus on what lies ahead.
I choose to prioritize time with those who give me energy and limit time with those that seem to suck the energy right out of me. Take notice of how you feel after a conversation or spending an afternoon with someone. Are you uplifted or depleted?
If this resonates with you and you feel like an outcast, or no longer aligned with your friends, or maybe you're looking for deeper connections and more fulfilling conversations, check out the Journey Seekers. This is a group I co-created to seek and develop the exact connections I was craving. We laugh, we cry, and we play together along our journey through this incredible human experience. It's a chance to build new connections that will support your growth, your dreams, and the extraordinary life you deserve.
We also have a FREE Accountability Challenge going on until the end of the year. Check that out here!
P.S. Did you miss my post from September? Here it is - Love Yourself Through This (even if you read it in September, I highly recommend another read, its a beautiful reminder to give yourself love and compassion when things feel hard.)