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Seeking Validation, The Healthy Way

Hey Party People,

Where do you get your feelings of worthiness? From the inside or the outside? Do you depend on external validation to lift you up? Or are you your own source of light? The goal would be to ground this belief within ourselves so we can tap into it at any time. But this belief can take time to solidify.

I’ve been receiving the message to believe that I am enough, I am loved, and I am worthy of all I desire. I am also reminded that those are facts regardless of what I do in the public eye. Those things remain true regardless of how many followers I have on social media, regardless of how many subscribers I have on my blog (but please do subscribe, it still makes me happy), or how many clients I secure, or if I publish a book, or become a “successful” entrepreneur. Those things are not indicators of my self-worth. It comes down to how I feel when I’m in stillness. This is when I discover what I truly believe about myself.

How do you feel about yourself when you’re in stillness? When was the last time you sat with yourself and tapped into you? That’s a great journal prompt or exercise to try out this coming week. But keep reading I have more magic below.

Now let’s get a little more truthful. Yes, we are worthy regardless of what the outside world says…but it sure feels good when the outside world acknowledges us doesn’t it? Where it becomes problematic is when our sense of worthiness is completely dependant on external sources – that’s when we set ourselves up to crash.

There is a grey area though - a way to seek validation the healthy way.

At times when you’re feeling uncertainty, resistance, or fear it can be helpful to reach out to others to lift you up. Gold star status comes when we can tap into our own self-worth in these insecure moments and lift ourselves up. But what do we do in the meantime on our journey towards this self-worth? And how do we avoid others from becoming a crutch?

Well, I have an idea…

It's ok to seek validation outside ourselves but ONLY when we are intentional about it, we choose the people that validate us, and we can receive the words people share with us. Here’s how I suggest you go about it.