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What Could Be?

Hey Party People,

Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve been hit with the message of living in the past. More specifically trying to re-create the memories or moments we enjoyed. It's pretty easy to fall into this pattern of trying to recreate something that was beautiful, super awesome, or brought you a massive wave of joy. The issue of trying to recreate a pleasant experience of our past is that we rob ourselves of the potential of a NEW experience. We limit our capacity to experience MORE or something different that is equally as pleasurable.

Think about it. How often do you gravitate to your past and wish for what was? Maybe you wish for the body you had before you had kids, or for the money you made before the pandemic, the lovey-dovey feels of a new relationship, or a repeat of that anniversary, that vacation, that birthday party. Any experience that you loved from the past you naturally will desire again. That’s cool but when we live in a space where we crave what was we don’t allow ourselves to bring in what could be.

I think part of the problem is that we have an extremely low tolerance for ambiguity or in other words we don’t like what we don’t know. Until we have experienced it we don’t hold the belief that it is possible or potentially true. So we limit ourselves to the experiences we have already lived.

But, what if we got a little more comfortable with not having all the answers? Control is an illusion and time is a social construct. Things can change at any point so instead let's create room for the possibilities!

What if we got a little more comfortable with dreaming of something better? Don’t limit yourself to that fond experience of the past, instead, dream bigger, want more and be open to what could be.

And finally what if we tried to be open to what’s next without planning out every freaking detail? I know for all my planners and goal setters out there this might be a challenge but if you don’t leave space for things to happen in the moment you will forever get cookie-cutter results.

Your future is bright and can be even brighter than your past if you allow it to be. We live and breathe by so many concepts that keep us confined to a pre-determined defined box, leaving no room to be different. Leaving no room to create your own experience or a new experience. Well, I say be different! Leave space for the unknown, accept that you don’t have all the answers, and dream of the potential for more!

Play in the what if’s of the future and stop trying to re-create the past. You’ve already lived that and it’s time for something new.

This week’s party jam reminds you that the best is yet to come.

With Gratitude,


P.S. Did you hear?? I am this close to becoming a first-time author! My book, Choosing Fulfillment is Scary AF, is in its final stages of editing and I cannot wait to get this baby in your hands.

What’s it about you ask? It’s about helping people choose to make a change in their life – to choose fulfillment. It’s easy to get stuck in the suck because it’s the suck you know and you get used to the life you have, even if it’s not the life you want. But life is too short to be living for everyone else around you. It’s time to start choosing you!

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