Hey Party People,
Why do we give up before we even start? Why does doubt win? Why do we allow others to dictate what we should or shouldn’t do? When did we stop believing in our ability to make our own decisions?
As kids, we are so confident in what we want and who we are, but slowly over time we are conditioned to move away from our unique self and are pushed to become like everyone else. Why is this? Because the same is accepted and it’s comfortable. Well, I’m here to tell you it’s not your job to make everyone else comfortable. It’s not your job to cater to their fears or to justify the things you want in your life. And it sure as shit ain’t your job to act like everyone else. It’s your job to do the opposite.
I started a little pointed this week but it’s because it is SO easy to brush aside who we truly are in attempts to fit in. It’s so easy to talk ourselves out of our dreams or goals, or the things that light us up. I’ve often wondered why. Why is it SO easy to accept the doubts in our mind and to believe the negative thoughts and so hard to believe in ourselves, or believe we have gifts to share with the world? Even when people tell us we have gifts or a story to tell, we shy away, cower, and think, “nah, not me.” But at the same time are in awe of the person in front of us and see all their unique and beautiful gifts that we know they need to share with the world. What about your gifts?
Everyone, yes, every single person on this planet has special gifts, including you. Gifts that only you possess. These gifts aren’t found in sameness and conformity, they are found in difference and divergence. But society makes it so hard to be different. You’ve probably heard the saying before, “dare to be different,” but have you ever really thought about what that means? It’s a daring act to step outside the comfortable box people want to keep you in. Spoiler alert! You already ARE different. You’ve just been conditioned to hide your differences in your attempts to fit in.
We all want to be liked. We want to be accepted. We want to be beautiful, or funny or loved and we think we have to be a certain kind of person to be viewed that way. But what if you started to believe that you already are liked. You already are accepted, beautiful and funny. What if you stopped denying your differences and saw them as the things that make you unique, the things that make you special. I want to encourage you to start believing in your gifts. Get curious about what makes you different. Those differences are what makes you, YOU, and who you are is undeniably beautiful.
I want you to feel good this week, so we’re throwing out a bit of Lizzo as your party jam this week.
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