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Take off your Crown of Independence

Hey Party People,

I wrote a different post for this week about being in service to others but I’m going to hold onto that one. I find it's often easier for people to be there for others and it's harder to be the one actually asking for help. So, this week we’re going to talk about just that.

I am someone who wears my crown as Queen of Independence proudly, and I will defend it fiercely. I have constantly held on to the belief that I don’t need anyone. This probably comes through in some of my posts and my words encouraging you to put yourself first, or that Selfish isn’t a Dirty Word. I still believe this wholeheartedly because if we don’t believe in ourselves and our worth, I don’t believe others will either.

With that said, we are all human and we are meant to live in community. Why do you think solitary confinement is used as torture? We can’t live in isolation; we’re not meant to. What I think happens though is that we get so used to taking care of others and asking what they need, how we can support them. Then when you flip it around, or someone asks how you are, you answer with the ongoing mantra, “oh me? I’m fine.” We are allowed to ask for and accept help too. When we don’t, we are acting as a detriment to ourselves. Can we work on that together?